11 Tips To Finding Your Happy, Fearless Place

“Happiness is not a destination, its a state of mind.”

I’m sure you’ve heard that one before!  It resonates with me.  I’ve always wanted to be happy.  Who doesn’t?!  But what does it take to be in that state of mind?

I’ve been working on this whole fearless lifestyle thing for a few years now. One thing is  for sure; it’s not easy.  I guess if it was, everyone would be doing it.  I’m a work in progress.  I’ll happily admit that.  Hell, I will still curse you out if you cut me off on the highway.  I just choose not to let those small things define my day.  I’m no therapist, life coach, or guru of all things.  Just a 30-something fashion entrepreneur who wants life to be as full as possible.  Here are 11 things that help keep me on the track to being my happiest self.

 

#1. Exercise

That whole endorphin thing is true! Exercise has a way of helping you shake off the stress. It doesn’t have to be a full hour sweat session. Try taking a walk around your block.

#2. Not Giving A Fuck

Bothering yourself with others think about you, your actions, your outfit, etc; is nothing but a waste of time. And a way to fit your head with negativity.  It might sound easier said then done, but you will find yourself alot happier when you stop giving a fuck about others opinions.

#3. Unplug From Social Media

Social media is time consuming!  Spend less time looking at what others want you to think their life is like and spend more time focusing on the things in your life that make you happy.

#4. Set Boundaries 

This is a hard one and one that I’m constantly battling with.  Text messages, calls, and emails, DMs, pings…can be overwhelming . Not to mention those that text to followup on the text that they sent 3 minutes before.  Or that person who always needs you to run an errand for them or look something up online, etc.  It’s enough to drive you insane! Set a scheduled time to check & respond to emails every day.  Let everyone know your “rules” and leave it at that. If they don’t get it, ignore them and follow the rules you have set for yourself.  They will get the picture eventually.

#5. Keep A Journal 

Have you ever had a million things on your brain. But things become instantly clear having a conversation with mom or bae? The same works with a journal. Writing down your innermost thoughts is freeing…trust me on this one!

#6. Laugh Instead of Crying

Life is unpredictable and there isn’t anything you can do about it. When you find yourself at a breaking point…instead of crying, burst out into a loud boisterous laugh. It will help to lighten your mood and hopefully change your perspective of the situation.

#7. Enjoy A Tall Glass 

When all else fails, pour up a nice glass of your favorite cocktail and chill.

#8. Helping Someone Else 

It is easy to sulk in your own mess until you meet someone who is worse. Sometimes its all about perspective. If you stopped and took a look around, you might find that things aren’t as bad as you think. Volunteer at a homeless shelter, help the Red Cross with the Hurricane Harvey victims, be a mentor to kids. You might notice that life isn’t so bad after all. Plus, it will give you a greater sense of gratitude.

#9. Let Others Fight Their Own Battle

I can’t tell you the amount of times I have found myself in the middle of a disagreement that had absolutely nothing to do with me!  Before you know it; both parties are mad at you.  When your intention was only to help mediate the situation.  Be it friends or family, let people fight their own battles.  Stay out of it!

#10. Put Yourself First 

Mom, wife, business owner, daughter; it doesn’t matter how many hats you wear.  You must be most important person in your life in order to be your best at any of them. Rather it’s enjoying quiet time on the porch with a cup of coffee or getting a manicure; be sure to do something for yourself.

#11. Make The Choice

Being happy is a choice, it’s not automatic.  You have to CHOOSE to be happy each day; it requires real effort.  Getting an attitude about traffic, rude people, receiving the wrong food is irritating.  But a mood changer it is not.  Throw them the finger (literally or figuratively) and keep it moving!  Once you get used to choosing to have a good day, you will be in your fearless, happy place in no time.

Which tips will you use? Are there any you would add?  Let me know in the comments…

Stay Fearless 💋